A Message To The World From An Anonymous Fraternity Member At The University Of Oklahoma

The events of this past week have hit the OU community hard, especially us Greeks. We were shocked and appalled by the actions of SAE, just like everyone else. Almost as shocking as the video, however, has been the reaction. Yes, the chant clearly indicated that things need to change, particularly with the chapter involved, but all Greeks are now being treated as guilty by association. Guilty until proven innocent. Racist until proven otherwise.
The media has done an incredible job reporting on the events at OU over the past few days, but, unfortunately, there is one important aspect of the story that is not receiving coverage: the effects of this week on the Greek community.
Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network. This was the type of thing we were known for, but nine seconds changed everything. In a matter of seconds, a few people’s actions on a bus, however horrific, tarnished the reputation of an entire fraternity and the Greek community as a whole. It’s ridiculous to think that the actions of a few members, of what was the most exclusive fraternity on campus, now seemingly represent everyone.
Now we live in constant fear. Every time we step foot outside, we are subject to ridicule and judgment. We have been threatened with violence, and violence has occurred. Every day we are under attack.
Cars with letters are vandalized, people are jumping Greeks, houses are being vandalized, and cyber attacks on Greeks and their organizations have taken place as well. OU is our home, and we are no longer comfortable here. In our own homes, we do not feel safe. You shouldn’t be afraid to walk to class alone due to the actions of a few bad eggs simply because you may be a member of a Greek organization. We are no longer trusted by our fellow students. Dirty looks are shot our way as we walk campus. We are treated like we are all bigots.
SAE has been vandalized and attacked, but other fraternities are suffering for their actions as well. Sig Ep has received the brunt of these attacks, as they were SAE’s neighbors, and they have similar letters. Their house, members, and cars have all been attacked by people who thought they were attacking SAE. This is a completely different and completely innocent fraternity we’re talking about. Those guys did nothing; they aren’t bigots, yet they are being treated like bigots. Every fraternity on campus is now subject to the general sentiment that we are all evil racists.
Worst of all, there’s no real way to reach out and change that perception. At least not yet. We are left to sit and watch as the media and popular opinion turns on us more and more by the day.
Sororities have also suffered in the wake of the now infamous video. One sorority’s headquarters suspended several members due to an Instagram post from last year that featured girls wearing rap t-shirts on MLK day. The girl from the first chanting video, who can clearly be seen not participating, is a member of another sorority. Several of her sisters have been harassed by protestors, simply because a girl from their sorority was there. Tri Delt has suffered the most out of any sorority. A Tri Delt recorded the first chanting video, and, as a result, Tri Delt has been under investigation for their involvement. For exposing the video, a girl’s entire sorority is being treated like they chanted along with SAE. Tri Delts are encouraged not to walk alone, or use the front door of their own house, due to fear of attacks. Sororities are being harassed on campus just as much as fraternities.
The school as a whole has even come under physical attack. Sunday night, around 3:30am, the power grid for the dorms was taken down. For several hours, thousands of freshmen students were literally in the dark. The only information the police would give us was that we needed to lock ourselves in our rooms and stay in groups.
Safety is a genuine concern for Greeks on campus. Police protection is required, not just for SAEs, but for the community as a whole. More police than ever are patrolling around Greek housing. People are afraid to walk alone at night on what used to be some of the nicest streets in Norman. My fraternity has taken measures to ensure the safety of our members, holdovers, and candidates. We are not permitted to wear letters for fear of being targeted. We are heavily encouraged not to speak to the media. We have also been encouraged to take the letters off of our cars, to remove letters from Twitter or Instagram bios, and to speak only in private Facebook/GroupMe groups.
People are afraid, and we as a community have come closer together than ever before, but we do not have a voice.
We are not bigots; those people are gone. We stand by and alongside people of every race. We are not the bad guys; we have become victims of the chant just like everyone else. It is my hope that one day OU Greeks will once again be known for raising money for charity, having exceptional grades, and respecting everyone equally. .
Although the SAE chapter does deserve some steep punishment, it’s sad that one incident like this can ruin the Greek life at the school, and put a smear on Fraternities as a whole.
11 years ago at 12:38 pmShouldn’t people who attack Greeks get kicked off campus for “creating a hostile learning environment”
11 years ago at 12:43 pmYes, but they won’t because “hurtful” words are more harmful than actions it seems. If I recall, there already is a precedent for a fraternity successfully suing a university for being kicked off campus for private words at a private event.
11 years ago at 12:45 pmYou’re a complete idiot if you think its just the “words” that are the problem. The problem is the idiots behind these kind of racist actions don’t just belong to this chapter, or frat. And if you are trying to argue that nobody knew that this kind of activity was happening on campus, you are an even bigger idiot. Don’t be mad that they got caught, you should be wondering how its 2015 and this type of shit is still happening.
And if you support these idiots, you should be mad at the idiot who posted the video. In conclusion, idiots.
11 years ago at 1:28 pmIt’s fraternity jackass, not frat.
11 years ago at 1:37 pmYes. Because what we should be concerned about is the fuckin word used to describe a fraternity.
10 years ago at 6:26 amNot the chant about hanging black people.
You know what, let’s turn this around right?
It’s actually black people’s fault!
And why are WE being oppressed for saying racist things or chanting about lynching?! WTF
WTF HAPPENED TO AMERICA
OMAGERD IM IN A FRAT AND I LOVE HOMOGENIZING GROUPS OF PEOPLE AND SINGING ABOUT LYNCHING, SO WHAT STOP OPPRESSING ME.
Who do you know here?
11 years ago at 1:46 pmLast I checked, words don’t cause physical harm to people or death; human actions do. The only time words have killed is when Dad just smites someone.
11 years ago at 2:34 pmIf you visited this website more often, buddy, you would know that there have been multiple articles and hundreds of comments condemning what happened in the strongest way possible. At no point in your rambling, self-contradicting response did you reply to anything that was said just now, and that demonstrated lack of critical reading, along with your abysmal grammar, leads me to the conclusion that you are the “idiot” here. We understand, and have always understood, that racism is unacceptable. We take issue, however, with the double standard currently in practice. An admittedly awful, racist chant on a private bus is unacceptable, but OU football players can publicly generalize and lambast all white people and all fraternity members and be PRAISED for it? Cowardly fucks with spray paint can vandalize and destroy the property of innocent members of other fraternities, as well as that of SAE? (I don’t give a fuck what they did, no social justice crusader has the right to take the law into his own hands). My point is that something that was offensive and wrong is somehow being used to justify a reaction infinitely more vitriolic, illegal, and moronic than anything that prompted it. And no one seems to give a fuck. Not the national media, not the local police, not the university. We’ve seen this before, with the vandalism at UVA following the false rape allegations, and in other places before that. What’s supposed to protect the members of the OU greek system from violence and property damage? Their “white privilege”? In conclusion: Kill yourself as swiftly and painfully as possible.
11 years ago at 7:02 pmWell put I must say.
11 years ago at 6:12 pmGreat use of “vitriolic”
11 years ago at 2:23 amYes the song is racist, yes it was wrong, but the real problem are the people who take situations like this and make them bigger than they should be. A song with an insensitive word that means black people should be handled on a more local level. The problem with this world nowadays is that people sit on the edge of their seats for the next piece of news that has to do with racist, sexist, and homosexual issues and they blow it out of proportion because the “words hurt their feelings”. Well get over it, this is The United States of America where every citizen, under the constitution, has Freedom of Speech. But by god if those words hurt somebodies feelings, the best thing to do is to make it a nationwide issue and we can bitch about it for months because its the biggest fucking problem since 9/11 apparently. America is so worried about racist issues when ISIS is taking over the whole damn middle east. Americans need to grow some balls and quit making the issue wayyyyy worse than it is
11 years ago at 10:29 pmgold
11 years ago at 1:29 pmWhat you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
11 years ago at 9:03 amYes it is 2015 and you don’t have to expect things like having to use the back door because the color of your skin or having to sit at the back of the bus. Whether you think it or not things have changed but when people bring physical violence to the picture then they are no better than my white ancestors 100 years ago. MLK promoted a non violent form of protesting and that is what set the standard for equality. now we are seeing “power seekers” trying to take the podium.
11 years ago at 9:18 amTake a lap.
11 years ago at 11:48 pmHow is it 2015 and people still get so butt hurt over words? They’re just words! If I was called a cracker or any other racial slur I wouldn’t be affended! Grow up u bitch!
11 years ago at 8:18 pmBall Hospey. Motion to vote…
11 years ago at 7:27 pmUnlike words, however, there’s no constitutional protection for physical assault. As terrible as what SAE did, and was recorded doing, was, it is protected under the first amendment from criminal charges and debatably the more extreme punishments doled out by the university (expulsions etc.). They weren’t overtly racist, they didn’t march on the streets with ropes and torches looking for people to lynch, they didn’t harass people face to face and call them racial slurs in public. The retaliation to the video; physical attacks, vandalism, harassment, and the targeting of Greeks (or anyone) is actually a violation of the law. Does it strike anybody as odd that the response to racism, and the perceived discrimination was to take the discrimination to a whole new level and dish it back? They’re trying to make a case for change by taking what happened and
11 years ago at 6:41 pmMy bad, using my phone and hit submit to early;
… and unleashing their own version with exponentially more intensity and violence. Not only that, but those they’re discriminating against are the ones who are the biggest critics of the events, and the best chance of changing the system so this doesn’t happen again.
11 years ago at 6:45 pmNot trying to dilute the integrity of your comment but I don’t think it’s fair to say, “what SAE did.”
11 years ago at 3:46 pmNo that makes way too much sense. You aren’t supposed to hold people accountable for their actions when they’re protesting a social injustice. They can’t help that they’re breaking laws and threatening the well-being of others.
11 years ago at 2:18 pmYou can and you should hold people accountable for the laws they break and the well-being of other that they are threatening when they are protesting a social injustice. No matter what their reason, the people doing the vandalizing and attacking are completely responsible for their actions. Just because they are protesting a social injustice does not give them special rights to break the law and threaten others.
11 years ago at 9:48 pmSarcasm, brah.
11 years ago at 7:28 pmShouldn’t they be held accountable for actions that are actually, you know, criminal? Wrong as racism is, assault and vandalism are actually punishable and the law can only validate intent so far.
11 years ago at 2:37 pmOU expels kids for a racist song but keeps thugs who hit women because they play football. http://reason.com/blog/2015/03/12/oklahoma-u-expels-racist-students-but-no
11 years ago at 3:56 pmDear god, I’m speechless.
11 years ago at 4:15 pmHave you seen the actual video? They were in an argument, she pushed him, he stepped towards her, then she slapped him. He hit her only after she slapped him.. They charged him, because she had broken bones in her face. She shouldn’t have made it physical. She even came out and said she provoked him. Don’t compare these situations.
11 years ago at 4:34 pmYou’re missing the point. The idea that racial prejudice is worse than actual violence is a terrible message to send to society.
Their little song was ignorant and wrong but the song didn’t break anyones face. The fact that school leaders are more concerned about student’s getting their feelings hurt than actually getting hurt is the bigger problem here.
Not to condone the kid’s behavior but they didn’t deserve this harsh a punishment for a silly little song.
11 years ago at 5:26 pmRight.. Because singing a racist song that wasn’t hurting anyone physically is WAY worse than a beast of a man hitting a woman half his size…. A man with apparently enough force to BREAK bones in her face. Totally worse. Your logic definitely resembles that of a liberal.
11 years ago at 5:29 pmNormalizing lynching (which is what the song does) does lead to people being hurt physically. And if you don’t have enough force to break bones in someone’s face, you need to hit the gym bro.
11 years ago at 12:27 pmShut the fuck up Baltimore Dan, no fraternity man will lynch someone because they’re motivated from a racist song. One of the most retarded conclusions I’ve ever seen.
11 years ago at 10:34 pmUm, yeaaah we’re talking about a man who is physically imposing enough to warrant a division 1 football scholarship from a top tier program. Almost super-human in comparison to people like you and me, yet you believe he had every right to strike a woman in the face? She shouldn’t have hit him, but his actions are inexcusable.
11 years ago at 10:00 pmI don’t care how many times she hits you, you never raise your hand to hit her back. Get your shit together.
11 years ago at 6:18 amWow, it must really suck to be directly affected by the negative way the media portrays a small percentage of your community because of people who are probably nothing like you… Oh, wait….
11 years ago at 5:41 pmIf you’re trying to hint at media stereotyping of black people or some other minority group, I think that’s already pretty widely debated and is in the public eye. The author is trying to point out that greeks at OU are being targeted because of their vague connections to a group of students who are already gone. But I guess the fact that other groups people have been stereotyped before completely negates their personal problems; it’s clearly only possible for discrimination to occur to one group of people per time period. (Side note for people up voting this bitch: you’ve misread her point; she is sarcastically attacking the article but commented as a reply for some reason)
11 years ago at 7:19 pmAmerica is undergoing a serious crisis that cannot afford to be taken lightly. America seems, for the majority of the time, to no longer be the land of the FREE and home of the brave, but the land of a bunch of pussies that are looking to dole out social justice at every opportunity. This movement, “The Pussification of America”, is teaching kids that life is fair and that if someone says something mean you should sue them. What ever happened to “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? This is Clemson SAE Cripmas all over again except this time it’s on a national level.
11 years ago at 6:58 pmThis is how Black Americans feel. A few black Americans make poor decisions, and police officers and other members of society are judging them. All they want to do is go about their lives, but they are being profiled and judged. It’s good to take a walk in someone else’s shoes and understand what they are going through.
11 years ago at 10:05 pmhi
11 years ago at 6:16 amjew
11 years ago at 3:01 pmI just don’t understand these “social justice” rioters. How could you possibly justify violence/idiocy against many because of the actions of a few? Aren’t they supposed to be prejudice and stereotyping?
11 years ago at 12:43 pm*against prejudice. Dammit.
11 years ago at 12:44 pmGreat article.
11 years ago at 12:43 pmWho do you know here
11 years ago at 10:39 pmThe more people try to tear down Greek life, the stronger it grows and the community comes together. That’s what it’s all about, the brotherhood/sisterhood between Greeks be they in the same organizations or not. Our letters may make us different but we are the same at heart: people looking to have some of the best times of our lives with the best people we will ever meet.
It’s like when the Romans tried to quash the Jews or Christians in ancient times; the more you attempt to squash it, the faster and stronger it grows.
Take care out there, fellow Greeks, of all campuses, letters, religions, races, and creeds.
11 years ago at 12:43 pmWe get it, now can we have more articles about spring break and tits.
11 years ago at 12:45 pmNot the time or place. Politely fuck off.
11 years ago at 12:47 pmWrong article to post this on, bud.
11 years ago at 12:50 pm“Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network.”.
11 years ago at 12:45 pmOh how I wish we lived in a world where this type of thing was headline news, instead of being forcibly beaten over the head with constant articles about a bus full of racist assholes.
Thank this very site for giving it so much traction. It’s not even surprising that news outlets care more about this sort of news than when Greek organizations do something good for their communities. Just have to keep fighting to ensure your organization doesn’t let in bad eggs to ruin it for everyone else.
11 years ago at 4:59 pmI can’t stand stupid people. God I can’t stand stupid people. If you’re going to attack us, can you at least learn the different between Sig EP and SAE. It’s not that hard. Holy shit. Fucking retards. God, SAE pisses me off, but I have to admit the national reaction pisses me off even more. They’re just words. And you retaliate to words with violence. Smart. You fuckers should all go to jail.
11 years ago at 12:46 pmTake a couple deep breathes Dave
11 years ago at 2:29 pmCarry.
11 years ago at 12:47 pmScratch that I’m sure you can’t do that on a college campus
11 years ago at 12:48 pmYou can at CU Boulder, strangely enough.
11 years ago at 2:20 pmA sorority girl here at Dart threatened to drop out unless she could pack heat.
11 years ago at 3:45 pmOklahoma has a state law that specifically bans concealed carry on college campuses.
11 years ago at 3:55 pmAt Colorado State University you can as well.
11 years ago at 5:16 pmAmazing to see people stand together, regardless of letters, especially in times like this
11 years ago at 12:48 pm