A Message To The World From An Anonymous Fraternity Member At The University Of Oklahoma

The events of this past week have hit the OU community hard, especially us Greeks. We were shocked and appalled by the actions of SAE, just like everyone else. Almost as shocking as the video, however, has been the reaction. Yes, the chant clearly indicated that things need to change, particularly with the chapter involved, but all Greeks are now being treated as guilty by association. Guilty until proven innocent. Racist until proven otherwise.
The media has done an incredible job reporting on the events at OU over the past few days, but, unfortunately, there is one important aspect of the story that is not receiving coverage: the effects of this week on the Greek community.
Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network. This was the type of thing we were known for, but nine seconds changed everything. In a matter of seconds, a few people’s actions on a bus, however horrific, tarnished the reputation of an entire fraternity and the Greek community as a whole. It’s ridiculous to think that the actions of a few members, of what was the most exclusive fraternity on campus, now seemingly represent everyone.
Now we live in constant fear. Every time we step foot outside, we are subject to ridicule and judgment. We have been threatened with violence, and violence has occurred. Every day we are under attack.
Cars with letters are vandalized, people are jumping Greeks, houses are being vandalized, and cyber attacks on Greeks and their organizations have taken place as well. OU is our home, and we are no longer comfortable here. In our own homes, we do not feel safe. You shouldn’t be afraid to walk to class alone due to the actions of a few bad eggs simply because you may be a member of a Greek organization. We are no longer trusted by our fellow students. Dirty looks are shot our way as we walk campus. We are treated like we are all bigots.
SAE has been vandalized and attacked, but other fraternities are suffering for their actions as well. Sig Ep has received the brunt of these attacks, as they were SAE’s neighbors, and they have similar letters. Their house, members, and cars have all been attacked by people who thought they were attacking SAE. This is a completely different and completely innocent fraternity we’re talking about. Those guys did nothing; they aren’t bigots, yet they are being treated like bigots. Every fraternity on campus is now subject to the general sentiment that we are all evil racists.
Worst of all, there’s no real way to reach out and change that perception. At least not yet. We are left to sit and watch as the media and popular opinion turns on us more and more by the day.
Sororities have also suffered in the wake of the now infamous video. One sorority’s headquarters suspended several members due to an Instagram post from last year that featured girls wearing rap t-shirts on MLK day. The girl from the first chanting video, who can clearly be seen not participating, is a member of another sorority. Several of her sisters have been harassed by protestors, simply because a girl from their sorority was there. Tri Delt has suffered the most out of any sorority. A Tri Delt recorded the first chanting video, and, as a result, Tri Delt has been under investigation for their involvement. For exposing the video, a girl’s entire sorority is being treated like they chanted along with SAE. Tri Delts are encouraged not to walk alone, or use the front door of their own house, due to fear of attacks. Sororities are being harassed on campus just as much as fraternities.
The school as a whole has even come under physical attack. Sunday night, around 3:30am, the power grid for the dorms was taken down. For several hours, thousands of freshmen students were literally in the dark. The only information the police would give us was that we needed to lock ourselves in our rooms and stay in groups.
Safety is a genuine concern for Greeks on campus. Police protection is required, not just for SAEs, but for the community as a whole. More police than ever are patrolling around Greek housing. People are afraid to walk alone at night on what used to be some of the nicest streets in Norman. My fraternity has taken measures to ensure the safety of our members, holdovers, and candidates. We are not permitted to wear letters for fear of being targeted. We are heavily encouraged not to speak to the media. We have also been encouraged to take the letters off of our cars, to remove letters from Twitter or Instagram bios, and to speak only in private Facebook/GroupMe groups.
People are afraid, and we as a community have come closer together than ever before, but we do not have a voice.
We are not bigots; those people are gone. We stand by and alongside people of every race. We are not the bad guys; we have become victims of the chant just like everyone else. It is my hope that one day OU Greeks will once again be known for raising money for charity, having exceptional grades, and respecting everyone equally. .
I would rather see a Buzzfeed spinoff articles than this. Sad times for the Greek community.
11 years ago at 1:34 pmIf Joe Mixon was allowed to stay in school after punching a woman, why were these students expelled?
11 years ago at 1:41 pmIt’s just the same whenever any rape cases come up. Immediately the Greek Life across the nation becomes filled with rapist and a culture that fosters that behavior. It’s sad that people believe that and refuse to realize the truth.
11 years ago at 2:01 pmI’m really not a fan of these situations in which the perpetrators of the “crime” act as victims. That said, the Greek community as a whole is not the issue nor responsible. As with any generalizations (racism, prejudice, etc) there are a few bad seeds that tarnish the name of all associated with them.
I understand the anger and frustration of those reacting to the video, I really do. Our nation has such a violent and ugly past in regards to racial divisions. Referencing one of the ugliest pieces of that division, lynching, is unforgivable.
However, generalization about the black community is a major driver behind that racial divide. When others have a preconceived notion about Greek life, or hold some sort of resentment against it, it is generally rooted from one single action in that individual’s life (getting kicked out of a frat party, turned down by a sorority girl, etc). This may seem childish, and not nearly as severe, but the foundation of hate is built on the same principle. The actions of a few outweigh the actions of many.
I admittedly was a gdi. I went to a large state school, and met many amazing human beings that were part of the Greek community. While there was a mutual understanding that I did not fully understand Greek life, I would never hold the entire community in lower esteem due to a bus full of drunk idiots.
The love of my life was a sorority girl. Her group of friends from her college days, while primarily Greek, are an outstanding group of people. My favorite colleagues in my office (fortune 100 company) are almost entirely Greek. The community is full of upstanding individuals, and I hope you all can bounce back from the heinous and idiotic actions of such a small group that does not come close to representing the whole.
11 years ago at 2:09 pmI honestly feel so bad for y’all at OU. I have an ex that goes there and I’ve been following this story since the video was at 300 views (now somewhere around 3M) and I knew it was going to be bad, but this is just out of control. It’s now affecting your safety, and even education. The action of one should not represent a group, and the action of a group school not represent the school. I’m disgusted with the Oklahoma SAE chapter, but I’m even more sickened with the actions of those putting y’all’s everyday life in harms way. Prayers from Mississippi.
11 years ago at 2:17 pmIt’s so easy to be the one on the outside throwing rocks at windows, and feeling a smug sense of self-satisfaction because you’re being told your hostile actions are morally justified. I am so sick of this.
11 years ago at 2:19 pmThis kind of shit is just fueling the fire when it comes to racism. I don’t care if you’re white black green or purple I have no respect for people when they vandalize people’s cars and jump them when the leave their house because they wear Greek letters. Easiest way to stop racism: Stop contributing to the racist stereotypes, stop giving people a reason to be racist. That goes for the bigot SAE’s in the video that started this shit and for the degenerates taking part in the vandalism.
11 years ago at 2:28 pmHow do you know the vandalizing parties are black? Also, “stop giving people a reason to be racist” is funny. Blacks didn’t give a reason to be enslaved, and the Japanese didn’t give good reason to be put in internment camps. Jews didn’t “give people a reason” to antisemites. To assert otherwise ignores history.
11 years ago at 7:25 pmNever said the vandals were black.
11 years ago at 9:17 pmYour examples are just that, history. The vast majority of people from those time periods are dead now. That’s not to say ideals and beliefs have not carried on through the years, but it’s not as prevalent anymore. Instead, those ideals and beliefs have been replaced by awareness and acceptance. To some degree they have also been replaced with oversensitivity, to the point where tying your shoes wrong could come off as racist. By bringing those events/periods of history into this discussion do you attempt to push guilt and accountability onto a generation that didn’t cause any of those events/periods. That my friend, helps nobody.
As for “stop giving people a reason to be racist.” Racism stems from stereotypes which stem from association of a habit, action, or belief within a particular culture, race, religion, gender, etc. Within all races exist members who fulfill the stereotype. They are the minority within their race but they still exist. Those minorities from each race give others reasons to be racist. It is the media that drives this divide by putting those minorities of each race on display. The media is essentially destroying this country for profit and power.
11 years ago at 6:30 amSorry but I think this article was posted to the wrong website, Isn’t this the website that only reports negatively on Greek life in order to portray a terrible public opinion and diminish reputation of college age male students that affiliate?
11 years ago at 2:57 pmOh no Greek community it must feel terrible to be grouped together with a small group of people that aren’t representative of your community as a whole yet based on their actions you’re now marginalized and treated poorly and even feel safe in a place you call home. Black people could never understand what that’s like. Let’s grow up and stop acting like we’re the victims
11 years ago at 3:02 pmBut these OU Greeks are the victims. They have done nothing wrong, yet they are being vandalized/beaten/threatened. For what? Because there are some bad apples in SAE? That should not be tolerated by the administration. As swiftly as they banned SAE, they should be discouraging the violent behavior that people are doing to the Greeks who had nothing to do with the chant.
11 years ago at 3:36 pmHey TFM this is how you stand up for the greek community when we fuck up. Thanks for nothing http://reason.com/blog/2015/03/12/oklahoma-u-expels-racist-students-but-no
11 years ago at 3:54 pm