A Message To The World From An Anonymous Fraternity Member At The University Of Oklahoma

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The events of this past week have hit the OU community hard, especially us Greeks. We were shocked and appalled by the actions of SAE, just like everyone else. Almost as shocking as the video, however, has been the reaction. Yes, the chant clearly indicated that things need to change, particularly with the chapter involved, but all Greeks are now being treated as guilty by association. Guilty until proven innocent. Racist until proven otherwise.

The media has done an incredible job reporting on the events at OU over the past few days, but, unfortunately, there is one important aspect of the story that is not receiving coverage: the effects of this week on the Greek community.

Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network. This was the type of thing we were known for, but nine seconds changed everything. In a matter of seconds, a few people’s actions on a bus, however horrific, tarnished the reputation of an entire fraternity and the Greek community as a whole. It’s ridiculous to think that the actions of a few members, of what was the most exclusive fraternity on campus, now seemingly represent everyone.

Now we live in constant fear. Every time we step foot outside, we are subject to ridicule and judgment. We have been threatened with violence, and violence has occurred. Every day we are under attack.

Cars with letters are vandalized, people are jumping Greeks, houses are being vandalized, and cyber attacks on Greeks and their organizations have taken place as well. OU is our home, and we are no longer comfortable here. In our own homes, we do not feel safe. You shouldn’t be afraid to walk to class alone due to the actions of a few bad eggs simply because you may be a member of a Greek organization. We are no longer trusted by our fellow students. Dirty looks are shot our way as we walk campus. We are treated like we are all bigots.

SAE has been vandalized and attacked, but other fraternities are suffering for their actions as well. Sig Ep has received the brunt of these attacks, as they were SAE’s neighbors, and they have similar letters. Their house, members, and cars have all been attacked by people who thought they were attacking SAE. This is a completely different and completely innocent fraternity we’re talking about. Those guys did nothing; they aren’t bigots, yet they are being treated like bigots. Every fraternity on campus is now subject to the general sentiment that we are all evil racists.

Worst of all, there’s no real way to reach out and change that perception. At least not yet. We are left to sit and watch as the media and popular opinion turns on us more and more by the day.

Sororities have also suffered in the wake of the now infamous video. One sorority’s headquarters suspended several members due to an Instagram post from last year that featured girls wearing rap t-shirts on MLK day. The girl from the first chanting video, who can clearly be seen not participating, is a member of another sorority. Several of her sisters have been harassed by protestors, simply because a girl from their sorority was there. Tri Delt has suffered the most out of any sorority. A Tri Delt recorded the first chanting video, and, as a result, Tri Delt has been under investigation for their involvement. For exposing the video, a girl’s entire sorority is being treated like they chanted along with SAE. Tri Delts are encouraged not to walk alone, or use the front door of their own house, due to fear of attacks. Sororities are being harassed on campus just as much as fraternities.

The school as a whole has even come under physical attack. Sunday night, around 3:30am, the power grid for the dorms was taken down. For several hours, thousands of freshmen students were literally in the dark. The only information the police would give us was that we needed to lock ourselves in our rooms and stay in groups.

Safety is a genuine concern for Greeks on campus. Police protection is required, not just for SAEs, but for the community as a whole. More police than ever are patrolling around Greek housing. People are afraid to walk alone at night on what used to be some of the nicest streets in Norman. My fraternity has taken measures to ensure the safety of our members, holdovers, and candidates. We are not permitted to wear letters for fear of being targeted. We are heavily encouraged not to speak to the media. We have also been encouraged to take the letters off of our cars, to remove letters from Twitter or Instagram bios, and to speak only in private Facebook/GroupMe groups.

People are afraid, and we as a community have come closer together than ever before, but we do not have a voice.

We are not bigots; those people are gone. We stand by and alongside people of every race. We are not the bad guys; we have become victims of the chant just like everyone else. It is my hope that one day OU Greeks will once again be known for raising money for charity, having exceptional grades, and respecting everyone equally.

  1. ArnoldPalmer777

    Like I said yesterday when I saw the video. It is a sad irony that this video is causing many people to condemn an entire group of people based on the actions of a few individuals…there’s a word for that.

    11 years ago at 3:59 pm
  2. PiKappFromPa

    I guess the Gdis couldn’t play which letter is different when looking at sig EP and SAE letters.

    11 years ago at 4:15 pm
  3. Obama_dosent_lift

    I don’t know what video you were watching, but that girl was clearly clapping along. That was what I was initially most shocked about.

    11 years ago at 5:45 pm
  4. DuckiesTFM

    To the Greek member who wrote this cry baby article. STFU. Rich boy. Oh no you get dirty looks now. How sad. Let me give you a little heads up. No one gives a shit. Welcome to the real world baby boy. Sure you’re not associated with SAE, and you’re not a racist. That’s fine, we all get that. And guilty by association is stupid.. Anyone with half a brain won’t disagree with you. But to say that YOU feel like YOU’RE being violated is a joke. Fuck you. How about the African American students who live a block away from you. How about their feelings? How about the “dirty looks” they’ve received since the first day of classes? Oh you forgot about them… That’s right it’s all about you. How about you make yourself useful and write an article about how you all as a Greek community FUCKED UP. Take responsibility for the actions of SAE. Say sorry that we didn’t see this unfolding in our community. Say sorry to the minorities at the school that something like this could occur, and that you pledge to make it your mission while at OU to make sure racism will not be tolerated in any form. But naw that’s to hard right? You don’t want to do that because someone might hold you to it. I get it. And worst of all what if they take away spring formal? One last time… FUCK YOU.

    11 years ago at 7:10 pm
    1. Gummybearsandscotch

      Hey sport. I bet you let out a big, deep exhale after that comment. Just wondering if any African American students had their cars vandalized because they were black? Do they hide their skin like the Greeks can’t wear their letters? I feel like you just exaggerated a lot. While African Americans may face some discrimination, the “dirty looks” they receive seem a little farfetched, but that can’t be proved, which is probably why you added that. Why should he apologize for something he didn’t do and openly disapproves? If he should apologize, then you should too. The logic of your comment blows. Why waste your “fuck yous” on him when there are people killing children in the world?…Oh you forgot about them. right? Stop trying to be intelligent on the internet champ.

      11 years ago at 8:05 pm
  5. Mblak998

    If you are on any side other than they deserved to be removed you are a dumbass and don’t see the problem that racist culture is just a bad as any violence. It’s not like the mostly freshman students on the the bus made the chant up on their own.

    11 years ago at 7:13 pm
  6. inrodwetrust

    Blah blah blah I’m a rich kid. Lol what is this thing called backlash? Don’t worry people forget fast. Every Greek transfer off campus and take your parents money out of the mix and then we’ll nsee how they come crawling back. Forgetta bout it.

    11 years ago at 7:19 pm
  7. beerbong_in_my_pants

    They should make Oklahoma a concealed carry campus just for these reasons. Everyone should know that their actions will have consequences.

    11 years ago at 9:54 pm
  8. rongarlo

    This article sucks. Look I get that what’s happening to the people in Greek life that are not associated with SAE is scary and unfair but for them to play the victim card is ridiculous. Like oh no Greek community it must feel terrible to be grouped together with a small group of people that aren’t representative of your community as a whole yet based on their actions you’re now marginalized and treated poorly and even feel unsafe in a place you call home. Black people could never understand what that’s like. Give me a break Greek life needs to grow up and stop acting like we’re the victims and take responsibility for our faults

    11 years ago at 1:02 am