A Message To The World From An Anonymous Fraternity Member At The University Of Oklahoma

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The events of this past week have hit the OU community hard, especially us Greeks. We were shocked and appalled by the actions of SAE, just like everyone else. Almost as shocking as the video, however, has been the reaction. Yes, the chant clearly indicated that things need to change, particularly with the chapter involved, but all Greeks are now being treated as guilty by association. Guilty until proven innocent. Racist until proven otherwise.

The media has done an incredible job reporting on the events at OU over the past few days, but, unfortunately, there is one important aspect of the story that is not receiving coverage: the effects of this week on the Greek community.

Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network. This was the type of thing we were known for, but nine seconds changed everything. In a matter of seconds, a few people’s actions on a bus, however horrific, tarnished the reputation of an entire fraternity and the Greek community as a whole. It’s ridiculous to think that the actions of a few members, of what was the most exclusive fraternity on campus, now seemingly represent everyone.

Now we live in constant fear. Every time we step foot outside, we are subject to ridicule and judgment. We have been threatened with violence, and violence has occurred. Every day we are under attack.

Cars with letters are vandalized, people are jumping Greeks, houses are being vandalized, and cyber attacks on Greeks and their organizations have taken place as well. OU is our home, and we are no longer comfortable here. In our own homes, we do not feel safe. You shouldn’t be afraid to walk to class alone due to the actions of a few bad eggs simply because you may be a member of a Greek organization. We are no longer trusted by our fellow students. Dirty looks are shot our way as we walk campus. We are treated like we are all bigots.

SAE has been vandalized and attacked, but other fraternities are suffering for their actions as well. Sig Ep has received the brunt of these attacks, as they were SAE’s neighbors, and they have similar letters. Their house, members, and cars have all been attacked by people who thought they were attacking SAE. This is a completely different and completely innocent fraternity we’re talking about. Those guys did nothing; they aren’t bigots, yet they are being treated like bigots. Every fraternity on campus is now subject to the general sentiment that we are all evil racists.

Worst of all, there’s no real way to reach out and change that perception. At least not yet. We are left to sit and watch as the media and popular opinion turns on us more and more by the day.

Sororities have also suffered in the wake of the now infamous video. One sorority’s headquarters suspended several members due to an Instagram post from last year that featured girls wearing rap t-shirts on MLK day. The girl from the first chanting video, who can clearly be seen not participating, is a member of another sorority. Several of her sisters have been harassed by protestors, simply because a girl from their sorority was there. Tri Delt has suffered the most out of any sorority. A Tri Delt recorded the first chanting video, and, as a result, Tri Delt has been under investigation for their involvement. For exposing the video, a girl’s entire sorority is being treated like they chanted along with SAE. Tri Delts are encouraged not to walk alone, or use the front door of their own house, due to fear of attacks. Sororities are being harassed on campus just as much as fraternities.

The school as a whole has even come under physical attack. Sunday night, around 3:30am, the power grid for the dorms was taken down. For several hours, thousands of freshmen students were literally in the dark. The only information the police would give us was that we needed to lock ourselves in our rooms and stay in groups.

Safety is a genuine concern for Greeks on campus. Police protection is required, not just for SAEs, but for the community as a whole. More police than ever are patrolling around Greek housing. People are afraid to walk alone at night on what used to be some of the nicest streets in Norman. My fraternity has taken measures to ensure the safety of our members, holdovers, and candidates. We are not permitted to wear letters for fear of being targeted. We are heavily encouraged not to speak to the media. We have also been encouraged to take the letters off of our cars, to remove letters from Twitter or Instagram bios, and to speak only in private Facebook/GroupMe groups.

People are afraid, and we as a community have come closer together than ever before, but we do not have a voice.

We are not bigots; those people are gone. We stand by and alongside people of every race. We are not the bad guys; we have become victims of the chant just like everyone else. It is my hope that one day OU Greeks will once again be known for raising money for charity, having exceptional grades, and respecting everyone equally.

  1. TypicalFratTypicalCollege

    Why am I getting the sudden feeling that this is going to start a race riot or non “violent” protest at OU

    11 years ago at 2:24 am
  2. StarriderXL

    You know, the imagery on this site; golf, liquor, fly fishing, White people drinking beverages chilled in an expensive Yeti ice chest and all that along with the comments and blame shifting don’t do a whole lot to improve the Greek image and stereotypes. Many of you seem like a bunch of snarky, spoiled over-privileged pricks. I wonder why that is?

    11 years ago at 5:39 am
  3. Tommyhockey

    Now I don’t agree with the song at all I am really pissed about the reverse racism that is being put on white people, specifically white males. People are out to get white men for every little thing possible because of their actions hundreds of years ago that people today have no involvement in. Yes they were wrong but lets just say if this were a black fraternity and they said we will never let a white person in, no one would care.its a shame what this country has become. Yes we are trying to become less racist but we are now targeting white people and specifically Greek members for every little thing. They should be punished for the song but they also shouldn’t be under violet attacks as well as other innocent people from keyboard warriors and crusaders who think they can take the law into their own hands

    11 years ago at 9:22 am
  4. thefratican1

    If it is that hostile, the greek life should fight back then, especially if they are getting harmed and no one else is doing anything about it.

    11 years ago at 11:26 am
  5. Wellnotexactly

    Please someone explain to me how this horse shit got published.

    “We don’t feel safe anywhere, protect us Greeks ” wah wah wah.

    Jesus guy, this isn’t Bosnia in the fucking 90’s, deal with it.

    Fraternities and sororities do dumb shit all the time, this is just another one of those times. And SURE you raised a boatload of cash for a good cause, but you seem to forget that a wrong doing of this magnitude kind of overshadows that. Like performing successful CPR and then RKOing a toddler immediately after.

    I think this should serve as a lesson to learn when to shut your mouth. If you really want to walk around and spout the whole “Greeks do good” mantra, you should probably try to keep this shit to a minimum.

    Edit: where was your risk management?

    11 years ago at 11:51 am
  6. Sleazy Asshole

    Why spend your time trying to prove how much good the Greek community does? The apologists in the media will never recognize it, and they will never stop demonizing exclusive membership. Today it is fraternities. Tomorrow it will be country clubs, then gated communities. Don’t apologize for something with which you had nothing to do. This has nothing to do with a specific college or greek life. This was one chapter out of thousands. I’m pretty disappointed about how the media is handling this and how Greeks are handling it in return. You give these people ammo when you apologize for the actions of others. This is my final comment on this website. Sleazy out.

    11 years ago at 12:04 pm
  7. Floridafrat

    Shouldn’t TFM of all places recognize that almost anything a fraternity does in private, when taken out of context and attached to the fraternity as a whole can look incredibly fucked and people shouldn’t jump to conclusions?

    Yeah, a handful of SAE got caught doing some stupid shit, it wasn’t their whole house hosting a black face party.

    11 years ago at 2:11 pm
  8. CaughtMe

    Hiring the attorney that represented the Oklahoma bomber doesn’t send the right message either…

    11 years ago at 2:29 pm