A Message To The World From An Anonymous Fraternity Member At The University Of Oklahoma

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The events of this past week have hit the OU community hard, especially us Greeks. We were shocked and appalled by the actions of SAE, just like everyone else. Almost as shocking as the video, however, has been the reaction. Yes, the chant clearly indicated that things need to change, particularly with the chapter involved, but all Greeks are now being treated as guilty by association. Guilty until proven innocent. Racist until proven otherwise.

The media has done an incredible job reporting on the events at OU over the past few days, but, unfortunately, there is one important aspect of the story that is not receiving coverage: the effects of this week on the Greek community.

Just one day before the video came out, OU students, mostly Greek, raised $561,268.15 for the Children’s Miracle Network. This was the type of thing we were known for, but nine seconds changed everything. In a matter of seconds, a few people’s actions on a bus, however horrific, tarnished the reputation of an entire fraternity and the Greek community as a whole. It’s ridiculous to think that the actions of a few members, of what was the most exclusive fraternity on campus, now seemingly represent everyone.

Now we live in constant fear. Every time we step foot outside, we are subject to ridicule and judgment. We have been threatened with violence, and violence has occurred. Every day we are under attack.

Cars with letters are vandalized, people are jumping Greeks, houses are being vandalized, and cyber attacks on Greeks and their organizations have taken place as well. OU is our home, and we are no longer comfortable here. In our own homes, we do not feel safe. You shouldn’t be afraid to walk to class alone due to the actions of a few bad eggs simply because you may be a member of a Greek organization. We are no longer trusted by our fellow students. Dirty looks are shot our way as we walk campus. We are treated like we are all bigots.

SAE has been vandalized and attacked, but other fraternities are suffering for their actions as well. Sig Ep has received the brunt of these attacks, as they were SAE’s neighbors, and they have similar letters. Their house, members, and cars have all been attacked by people who thought they were attacking SAE. This is a completely different and completely innocent fraternity we’re talking about. Those guys did nothing; they aren’t bigots, yet they are being treated like bigots. Every fraternity on campus is now subject to the general sentiment that we are all evil racists.

Worst of all, there’s no real way to reach out and change that perception. At least not yet. We are left to sit and watch as the media and popular opinion turns on us more and more by the day.

Sororities have also suffered in the wake of the now infamous video. One sorority’s headquarters suspended several members due to an Instagram post from last year that featured girls wearing rap t-shirts on MLK day. The girl from the first chanting video, who can clearly be seen not participating, is a member of another sorority. Several of her sisters have been harassed by protestors, simply because a girl from their sorority was there. Tri Delt has suffered the most out of any sorority. A Tri Delt recorded the first chanting video, and, as a result, Tri Delt has been under investigation for their involvement. For exposing the video, a girl’s entire sorority is being treated like they chanted along with SAE. Tri Delts are encouraged not to walk alone, or use the front door of their own house, due to fear of attacks. Sororities are being harassed on campus just as much as fraternities.

The school as a whole has even come under physical attack. Sunday night, around 3:30am, the power grid for the dorms was taken down. For several hours, thousands of freshmen students were literally in the dark. The only information the police would give us was that we needed to lock ourselves in our rooms and stay in groups.

Safety is a genuine concern for Greeks on campus. Police protection is required, not just for SAEs, but for the community as a whole. More police than ever are patrolling around Greek housing. People are afraid to walk alone at night on what used to be some of the nicest streets in Norman. My fraternity has taken measures to ensure the safety of our members, holdovers, and candidates. We are not permitted to wear letters for fear of being targeted. We are heavily encouraged not to speak to the media. We have also been encouraged to take the letters off of our cars, to remove letters from Twitter or Instagram bios, and to speak only in private Facebook/GroupMe groups.

People are afraid, and we as a community have come closer together than ever before, but we do not have a voice.

We are not bigots; those people are gone. We stand by and alongside people of every race. We are not the bad guys; we have become victims of the chant just like everyone else. It is my hope that one day OU Greeks will once again be known for raising money for charity, having exceptional grades, and respecting everyone equally.

  1. mikerotch

    I’ve seen this anonymous letter posted on TFM twice. You guys should stop milking this story, continuing its popularity does a disservice to fraternities just let it go.

    11 years ago at 6:07 pm
  2. Guest3630152

    An open letter to the Anonymous Sooner who wrote this article:
    Yes, you have received backlash. You have received ridicule you don’t deserve. You have received threats of violence and vandalism. But these are all reactions to horrific racism expressed by fraternity members of SAE at your school. Horrific racism that likely exists in several of your fraternities and minds of members. This was a preemptive act. It was totally premeditated, and done for the sole purpose of expressing prejudice. There is no way that you can believe the backlash you have received is worse than the atrocities that provoked it. I’m not saying the backlash isn’t wrong, I’m not saying every fraternity member at OU deserves to feel this kind of ridicule and threat, but I am saying that the community, campus and greater, has every right to feel appalled, angry, enraged, and offended by the initial racist acts. And sometimes, strong emotions make people behave in ways they wouldn’t normally support. These behaviors are reactive; they are a response to something awful and terrible that a group of people decided to do, as an independent and isolated act of racism and bigotry. To compare the backlash to the initial wrongdoing is to disregard the horrific nature of the racist chants, referencing lynchings and lasting prejudice. Further, this disregards the bigger problem that exists, the prejudice problem at OU, as well as in many other universities and cities across the country. I don’t think you all deserve to live in shame and fear, but you do need to understand why it’s happening. Rather than being indignant about how wronged you feel, you should use this experience to realize the gravity of the words those SAE boys chanted—how they make people feel, how they tear down years of progress and professions of freedom from a country we all love and support. You should want to educate your fellow fraternity and community members of the harmful effects of their words, because words create action. And action always causes reaction—and THAT is what this is. You should strive to stand apart from those who committed racist acts, show everyone that you don’t want any part or association in it. The backlash will die down. But the racist underpinnings of this occurrence will not, unless people come together to make a change. I’m sorry you’re experiencing hate. You’ve been unfairly targeted simply for being affiliated with a negatively stereotyped group of people. But you know what that sounds like to me? Exactly what blacks and minorities have experienced for years, and still experience every day (as exemplified in SAE’s video). You are a minor victim to a major problem in which the major victims are minority group. Please realize this, and stop complaining.

    11 years ago at 8:03 pm
  3. St.JohnDixon

    This entire situation is utterly ridiculous. Did the public call for the immediate expulsion of the Vanderbilt football team after members were involved in rape? Did the public call for the Duke lacrosse team to be disbanded after their allegations a few years back (even though they were later proven false)? The only time you hear about this treatment taking place is when it comes to fraternities. Were the actions of the members in the video offensive and ignorant, absolutely they were, but the actions of a few does not justify the punishment of the entire fraternity. Expulsion from the fraternity is justified, just as it would be with any private organization that you pay to be a member of. What burns my ass is the knee jerk reaction from the university that was done just to please the masses without any concern of due process or freedom of speech. Just because they said something that hurts people’s feeling does not justify expulsion from the university and I hope that the alumni chapter sues the shit out of the school. Kicking the fraternity off and expelling students does nothing to combat racism and will do nothing to fix the underlying problem. It’s honestly sad that the fear of being called a racist in this country is almost equivalent to being a murder or pedophile. I can only hope that the rest of the OU greek community stays safe during this trying time and my prayers go out to them.

    11 years ago at 10:55 pm
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  6. Frat_McCullough

    Reminiscent of Vietnam vets being persecuted upon returning to the States. The public always seems to target those not involved with the atrocity itself and blame innocent people

    11 years ago at 4:15 pm