If Your Friends Are Telling You To Break Up With Your Horrible Girlfriend, You Should Listen To Them

blue-eyed-blondie7 years ago

I know I am Benedict Arnold-ing my own kind here, but sometimes you need to sacrifice a few of your own for the greater good. Recently, I started to notice that one of my close guy friends has begun to change. What used to be a carefree, happy human has been replaced by a broken shell of a man, controlled entirely by his witch of a girlfriend.

I notoriously stick my nose in places it doesn’t belong, like this godless website, for example. So, of course I voiced my opinion regarding his dumb ass relationship. He took it poorly, brushing off my plea to dump the parasite before things got too serious. In reality, he wasn’t in the wrong for ignoring my concern. Considering our own past history, it’s understandable that he assumed I was speaking out due to jealousy as opposed to his best interests. As frustrating as it is, I totally get not giving your female friends’ opinions any weight on this sort of issue. What I will never be able to justify, however, is choosing to brush off your boys when they come to you in a serious manner about a problem.

It’s one thing for a guy to roll his eyes at a sparsely made “you’re such a cuck now” comment. But when a man’s friends take the time to sit him down and hold the equivalent of a relationship intervention for him, he needs to start listening. This isn’t the same as your girlfriend and your best friend butting heads over her frequent overnight stays; this is about them truly being concerned about a toxic relationship.

At the end of the day, your buddies are the ones who are always going to be there for you. That’s not to say that it’s impossible that the Gamma Phi you’re dating could end up being the girl you marry, but it’s in no way a guarantee. What you can count on, however, is that when you do find the girl you’re going to settle down with, your best friend is going to be there standing by your side and giving an inappropriate best man speech. Unless, of course, you continue to let the girl he tried to save you from wedge a hole in your friendship. Then you’ll be left with a wedding party consisting of her shitty friends, her just as suckish brothers, and her guy best friend that she insists you let her have late night, movie, and cuddle marathons with, lest you be a “controlling asshole.” If that doesn’t sound like Hell to you, then you don’t deserve friends in the first place.

If your friends don’t bother to even say hello to your girlfriend when she shows up anywhere, but instead just say goodbye to you, there’s probably a problem. If your friends haven’t invited you to any get-together in the past few months, there’s probably a problem. If you start to notice that, while venting to your buddies, you barely have to mention that y’all were fighting before they accurately fill in the blanks because they’ve heard the same issue, the same argument, hundreds of times before, there’s probably a problem.

If your friends ever feel the need to get together, sit you down, and point-blank voice that she isn’t good for you, you need to listen. It’s easy to hide behind the justification that they don’t “get” your relationship, but that’s the entire point. They aren’t too tired to stand up for themselves like you are, and they certainly aren’t blinded by her manipulation like you are. At the end of the day, she’s not worth fighting for. And especially not when the fight is against your own friends.