Lambda Chi Alum Goes Off On Chapter When His Son Doesn’t Get A Legacy Bid
When an alumnus of Lambda Chi Alpha found out his son didn’t land a legacy bid from his old house, he took to the chapter’s Facebook group to express his outrage. Someone snapped screenshots of the ensuing argument and sent them our way.
I totally understand why the father was so pissed (and, judging by his long-ass, five-part name, he seems like the type of guy who would really care about things like legacy). But taking the matter public was a bad call. Maybe if he privately messaged the current chapter president, they could’ve handed the son a late bid and said, “Whoops, forgot to get you one the first time. Sorry, bud. Now go take care of the bloody tampon stuck to the bathroom ceiling.” But since he went scorched earth in front of everyone, his son would be way too embarrassed to join — he would know that everyone else knows he’s strictly a legacy bid (though, to be fair, that probably would’ve come up at some point during his pledgeship anyway).
How bad would it suck to be this kid, though? Just a cringey move by pops. Maybe the son didn’t even want to join so he didn’t show up to any rush events. Maybe the son joined a different fraternity.
On another note, one of the comments on the post brings up an interesting point about fraternities in general. Do chapters care less about legacy than they used to? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing? Personally, I really dug the one alum’s take on being in control of your own destiny, regardless of familial ties. And again, I also understand the father’s outrage — especially if his son really wanted in — but at some point you’ve got to let your kid fight his own battles.
And while we’re asking questions, here’s a couple more. How much money does an alumnus have to donate to guarantee his son a bid? How bad does a legacy have to suck to be denied one?.
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Any rushees reading this please take note, the kid did not tell actives enough that he was a legacy. Actives love when you bring it up.
8 years ago at 3:28 pmAs a member of this chapter I can confirm that he let me know he was legacy. He bro raped me with it..
8 years ago at 3:39 pmTo be honest the article missed some of the best comments the Facebook page was blown up for 3-4 hours
8 years ago at 3:59 pmComing from a guy with a tongue piercing who got a bid because he’s a legacy.
8 years ago at 5:59 pmI also have a nose ring, but I’m not a legacy. My father would be even more ashamed of me if I joined the fraternity he was in.. If he ever came around..
8 years ago at 7:15 pmY’all ladies know each other?
8 years ago at 10:27 amReally bad…
8 years ago at 3:40 pmDad should have taken the kid to a summer event or a summer visit to make it known he was a legacy and gotten to know the house leadership better.
8 years ago at 3:42 pmThat dude only has one like on every comment of his… He is definitely the guy that likes his own post.
8 years ago at 3:42 pmYou fucked up, you trusted us.
8 years ago at 3:43 pmI didn’t get a bid despite being a legacy my freshman year but that was because I was a weird fuck. I got my act together and rushed again next year. This father is an idiot because he removed any chance of doing what I did. Not everyone is cut out to be in a fraternity when they first step foot on a college campus.
8 years ago at 3:45 pmYou’re still a weird fuck, Dave.
8 years ago at 4:37 pmThis entire incident tells me he raised a whiny, selfish, weird fuck of a son. As for legacy, I think it means the same today as then. The difference: this father handed out participation trophies while previous generation still earned their bids on their own.
8 years ago at 10:16 amLegacy doesn’t mean shit, if it’s not a good fit, it’s not a good fit, simple as that.
8 years ago at 3:59 pmWould you rather have your son be miserable in the chapter? Or would you rather have your son find his own way and enjoy his four years. As long as he goes Greek, that’s all that should matter.
8 years ago at 4:07 pmWow all those great discussion questions you ask of us at the end there, I sure would love to discuss them somewhere with my fellow Greek members. Maybe on some kind of forum perhaps?
8 years ago at 4:06 pmYou tried tho
8 years ago at 8:10 pmmaybe his sons just a loser
8 years ago at 4:21 pmLegacy means nothing. I want my future son to be in my fraternity, but I’ll be damned if he gets in just in spite of me. We all earn our places in our chapter, part of the reason I love being in a Fraternity.
8 years ago at 4:30 pmWhile I agree you shouldn’t get a bid because your a legacy, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t mean anything. My grandfather, my uncle, my dad, and my two brothers all are in the same fraternity and we have all been made stronger by it. Sometimes a good fit runs in the family.
8 years ago at 9:33 pm