Mailbag: Moving Closer To Home, Dealing With Spring Break Blunders

WJ Cope6 years ago

Welcome to the TFM Mailbag, wherein I will answer your questions to the best of my ability. Send your questions to [email protected]. No topics are off limits.

What’s up my guy. So I just got initiated to my fraternity at my current out of state school, but due to some external circumstances (including a minor arrest and totaled car) my parents want me closer to home. My question is, will I be able to join my current fraternity at my new school, and if yes is there anyone I should get into contact with right now? I have a couple boys from my hometown in the fraternity I’m in at the school I’ll be going to next year if that helps

I’m going to trust that the circumstances are as external as you say they are, and I’ll assume that your “minor arrest” has nothing to do with your fraternity. The chapter at your new school should be pretty receptive to a member from another chapter wanting to join, and if they aren’t then they can go suck a lemon. What you need to determine is whether or not they’re a good fit for you.

If they’re going to lose your interest or hold you back, there’s no point in joining up. If you do decide to pull the trigger, you should easily be able to get in contact with them. Rather than email or call someone, I’d show up in person with a generous offering of booze to make your introduction. Good luck to you.

Need some help.

So I’m looking at internships for this summer, and right now it looks like I have two options. One of them is in the same city as my school, so I’d keep living at my fraternity house over the summer. The other one pays almost twice as much, but it’s across the country in a large East Coast city. I’d be doing practically the same thing at either company. Which one should I go with?

The second option sounds like a no-brainer at first, but make sure to think about how much rent and other expenses will be if you move to the new city. Depending on how far you have to drive/fly to live there, you could be dropping hundreds just to arrive at the new place, and then you’ve got to worry about throwing down rent and a security deposit at an apartment or house. You’ll be making a lot more money, but a huge chunk of it will go into expenses related to the new location.

Still, if I were you, I’d go to the faraway city and do that internship. I did that exact thing a few years back, and it was absolutely worth it. You’ve got a chance to live in a new city for a few months, and a whole new world of experiences awaits you there. You’ll learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible. If you don’t do this, you’re dead to me.

Yo,

So I really fucked up this spring break. My friends and I spent the weekend in a rented house in South Padre, and I was wasted the whole time and couldn’t control myself. That was bad enough, but then on the last day I puked all over a pool table which ended up costing us $400. I ended up paying for half of it with everyone else splitting the rest. I’ve apologized to everyone and they’ve been decently cool about it, but I can tell everyone is pissed at me. What can I do to make this better?

It’s good that you at least paid for half of the pool table damages, and I know that unexpectedly having to drop that much money can sting. The biggest thing you can do here is wait. Time has a way of turning these embarrassing moments into funny stories. In the meantime, you should absolutely make sure you aren’t embarrassing yourself in that same way again. Take it easy when you’re drinking, especially around the people you went spring breaking with. Another mishap could lead to them not inviting you to things in the future..

Remember to send any and all questions you have to [email protected].